 Millennials aren't that different from us, this may be an unpopular position, but hear me out. I don’t remember when I first started hearing about Millennials, but after the first time, I pretty much listened to the same thing every time. Concerning those that hold different opinions, I believe Millennials are not different, times are. We get mad because they want what they want. Sure they may not want to start their day at 7 am. So what? They don’t want to work past a particular time of day. I get it. They want to feel they can make a difference. Who doesn’t ? Sure they value their time and their agenda. Don’t you? Insert all the other things you have heard at the sessions about the millennial generation and their work habits… Here is the thing though… It is the times that allow these choices. Maybe we are just mad because we couldn’t get that choice. I grew up in a different time. I was conditioned by a job environment that meant I couldn’t push back as much on employers to make concessions. Fair enough. I wasn’t mad it was just the way it was. I worked in an industry that expected certain things, and everybody around me seemed to be ok with that. So I got in line. We all signed up for a great promise. Millennials watched that promise dissolve for their parents in rare, unforgiving financial times. So they drew their conclusions and made their corrections in the way they want to balance the scales.  No, I believe that generations are the same. People are pretty much the same. Same needs and wants. Same desire. Just the times make us different. Here’s the thing, we need this generation in the places we work, and we don’t make them feel welcome when we keep using tropes and stereotypes…very rarely does describing differences lead to unity. I could write more, but I think you get what I am saying… Let me know your thoughts in the comments, am I wrong, if so tell me, if you agree, let me know.
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 Almost any technology we buy these days comes from the factory with default settings.
What are default settings? These are the settings that the factory thinks the majority of operators will find useful. They have much utility. We do not have to take the time to determine basic things like font size or programs we might want to use. There are so many decisions made that allow us to pull it from the box and start using it. Great right? In addition to default settings, there are programs that "run in the background." Again these programs are great because they allow us to maximize our usage with limited input. Here's the thing... we are just like that laptop. We have programs running in the background and factory settings that determine our operational effectiveness. These background programs affect most areas of your life, the relationships you end up with, the salary you have and the job you take, even the car you drive. Like most programs, they are not necessarily bad. Many are useful, but we need to know what is running in the background. Left unchecked these factory settings and programs can limit your performance. Every fact you learn is filtered past, processed, and compared to every other thing you have "learned in the past." The factory in our case is the environment we were exposed to in our formative years. How you think about money, you better believe that you picked up those ideas from the things you heard or experienced as a kid. The health of the relationships you accept, we need to understand where the ideas about what we thought we wanted or even deserved in the relationship were set. The good news is like all settings they can be changed. Sure you may need to learn a little hack here or there, you maybe even need to learn a new operating language or install a patch over some damaged code. However, that is okay because as long as we stop long enough to look at what we have running in the background, we can make changes. What new upgrades will you install?  I don't know of two words that do more damage to constructive communications than these two words; always and never.
Think about it; you are discussing something, maybe a contract with a vendor and they say something like "well you guys never get here on time" or "why do we always have to do this with you guys." These statements are pregnant with blame and cause our ego to get defensive and react instead of respond. Let's all resolve to eliminate absolutes from our dialogue...not all the times obviously. They are ok words, even good words, the problem is how we use them. Too often we use them as declarative absolutes. These very often can't possibly be true. The trouble with using these words is how can someone take us seriously if he or she know that we are just plain wrong, at least from their perspective. These words give people permission to dismiss and ignore any point you are trying to communicate. If the goal of the conversation is to seek clarity of understanding so both/all parties can move forward with mutual alignment, then our words should be selected to allow us and others to stay engaged. What difference could that make if we speak with a desire to understand the other party, not just waiting for our turn to talk? To your team? To your business? To your family? To our communities? Speaking to really understand rather than just waiting for our turn to be understood. I have come to believe most people have a desire for three things in life, to be seen, to be heard, and to be understood. Who in your life needs you to understand them today? Here is Stephen Covey talking about how to have transformative conversations in a 3-minute video. So simple, but so seldom done. See it here. If you are paying attention, of course, the most important people that need us to improve our communication are our loved ones. What other absolutes should we eliminate?   My dog has nothing really to do with this post, but I do love her and wonder what's in her head at times. I am sure she wonders what is in mine at times. I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I was reminded of a theory I have been sharing with a few teams I work with.
There is a concept out there called "Regression to the mean" or Reverting to the mean." It's an idea used in Statistics and Investing. Here's a quick snapshot from Wiki something. Why should we care? We all have an "idea" or self-perception of who we are and what we think we deserve. This perhaps more than anything else is at the core of where we find ourselves today. This concept is part of the makeup of our mindset. Fixed or Growth. For more on mindset check out this great book by Dr. Carol Dweck here Start with being honest. We should have a realistic and honest assessment of how we view ourselves. We need to know our true baseline to understand how it is affecting our performance and relationships. At times we operate below our baseline level, This can cause us to get in a funk or a rut. It manifests as poor performance. Usually, when this happens, we have a talk with ourselves and are generally pretty good at getting ourselves back up to the level we think we should be operating at. Unfortunately, the same principle applies when we start to see results above our perceived baseline level. The same voices in our head go to work and start to tell us any success we had is a mistake or a fluke. We sit waiting to be found out. Imposter syndrome kicks into overdrive. It affects our performance. As we communicate, we telegraph our mindset, and sooner or later the results start to look more like we expect and truthfully we get more comfortable, relieved that we will not be found out. Answer We need to consciously be raising our level of comfort and see ourselves as being a top performer. This can be hacked simply with daily affirmations or pattern interrupt reminders. Our brains have the ability to create new neural pathways. We just need to be consistent and as diligent about commitment to changing how we see ourselves. Of course, the secret is that this is not just a "work" thing...if you fix your self-perception in one area, it is inevitable that you will see improvements in all. But that all depends on what's in your head...  TLDR; People get engaged by being engaged
In previous posts, I have shared my theory of training based on the ideas of "Self-Discovery" and sharing the why. More on that here. The next biggest question I get asked about is the practical logistics of training. Things we “do” that can make a difference. Actions that make the training more enjoyable and engaging for all involved. So what are they? Break up the status quo. Simple things like re-arranging the tables signal a difference is coming. As humans, we are hard-wired in our brain to react to differences. This change telegraphs difference and can eliminate the need to say it out loud. The meeting starts before the meetings start. There is nothing worse than a cold room, not temperature but atmosphere. An empty room is a blank slate; the first person comes in, the room is quite, so are they. The second person comes in, and it stays quiet and before you know it you have a room full of people that are stone cold quiet. Then we come in asking for engagement and input. It just doesn’t work. So what I have found is ridiculously simple. Before your group arrives, have music playing in the room at a low level. This music creates background noise allowing for a conversation to take place. People get a chance to open up, and when you are ready to start, they are warmed up. The ball I use one of these. People like to engage in the smaller things before jumping into potentially hard question. I a question ball to get things going(there are many to choose from, and you can make your own). It also has the added benefit of keeping things loose and allowing the people in the room to get to know each other. This exercise helps build relationships and enhance productivity. Probably the thing people have said the enjoy the most. Redirect If you are asked a real question, resist the urge to answer. Our temptation is to try to prove we are the expert and answer all the issues. This tendency to answer all the questions is a big mistake. First thank them for the question, then ask around if anybody else has similar issues. (hint: now you have valuable information you can use to influence decision making). From there you can redirect the question to the group to get some standard answers. Now your team is talking to each other, and you are creating a learning environment. People feel good about being able to contribute. Mindsets shift and people become engaged. There is a lot more we can share and expand on, maybe in a future post. So next time you are looking for others to respond to training by making a difference ask yourself…is the training different?  When it comes to change or learning, how do you prefer to learn?
Do you do your best when you are brought in, instructed on the rules(policies or procedures, S.O.P) Does that make you feel engaged? Do you want to be part of the process? Is it any different for your team? “Do it with the people, not to the people.” Many organizations have shared their struggles with me, often turning to experts for answers. However in many cases, the answers organizations are looking for are in the room with their people. So how do we get the answers? First, we have to create a culture of engagement; the best way to do this is by sharing the why. More on that here. Next, we foster engagement in the training meetings. We do this my asking questions. “Anything we can say as a statement we can phrase as a question.” If we ask questions in a non-leading way, framing with reality as we go, we allow for individuals to reach the correct conclusion on their own. “in life, if you want better answers - ask better questions.” For example, if we are looking to work on creating better customers experience one way would be to create a policy, pull the team in and tell them the new policy and the consequences for noncompliance. The better alternative would be to gather the group, discuss their positive customer experiences, their negative experience all the while asking meaningful follow-up questions. They may share about a doctors office, retail experience or the time they needed help from the phone company. We can ask what organizations that do a great job have in common, what they do what they don’t do. Unfortunately, it's sometimes easier to find organizations that provide poor examples and talk about those to get started. We should ask what they remember about the experience? What was the impact? Who all was affected by the whole thing? Most importantly we can ask how they felt. It's not uncommon in the retelling for people to get worked up and feel what the felt during the experience. Very quickly they will draw the connection between how we take care of our customers and the way our customer may feel? From there it is an easy step to put together a list of best practices that everybody can get behind. Moving forward these become the “just way things get done here”. New employees catch the message; standards have improved in a way that allows everyone to own it.” This method is the most sustainable way to create change. Now from an ongoing management perspective, we can come alongside our team and ask what has changed since “we all agreed on best practices.” It puts you in a position to learn more and be less confrontational in management style. Less "them and us". More to come in that next post.  This is the third post in the series about training your team. This actually could be a stand alone post. When it comes to training tell your team “Why” you are training. Telling them “Why” is actually the training. Instead of more rules, create guide rails. Let your team know where the goal posts are and let them decide how to score. So much has been written and said about "Why" yet it is still one of the most ignored subjects within organizations. "He who has a why can bear almost any how” Friedrich Nietzsche In many organizations whenever there is an issue the solution is to add another rule. This seems to make sense right? What if we did it different, what if we shared our “Why”? Would sharing it allow our teams to perform better in more situations?…Would they feel better in situations if they could use our “Why” as a compass to navigate? Think about that. Does your team perform their work under supervision ? Do they perform their work offsite? We live in a post industrial revolution world. The days of prescribing every little action to be taken by your team are over. We cannot possible legislate every situation they will run in to. The world is moving too fast. How can you be sure that they will perform work in alignment with your desires if they run into a situation that they are not perfectly prepared for? The only choice is to share the "Why". If they know your Mission, Vision and Values, you can be assured whatever action they choose will be directionally correct. The customer will be taken care of and situations will be resolved sooner. Faster resolution performed correctly is usually more cost effective. Employees feel empowered and more engaged. Customers will feel taken care of. “If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work and give the orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the endless sea.” Antoine de Saint Expury. This may be the challenge to execute on “Why”. You may have to evaluate the way YOU think. What do you believe about leadership or management? Do you believe you have to do all the thinking and layout a tightly prescribed and narrow set of rules; or do you fundamentally believe that people will rise to the level of expectation you set? How do you set expectation? What is your ability to communicate your “Why”? Think about it. Who would you want to work for? Someone that doesn’t share the directive; Who doesn't tap into your deeper abilities? Or someone that treats you as the adult you are and holds you accountable for the opportunity and direction given? “You can buy a person's hand, but you can't buy his heart. His heart is where his enthusiasm, his loyalty is. You can buy his back, but you can't buy his brain. That's where his creativity is, his ingenuity, his resourcefulness.” ― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Create a training program built around helping your team understand and live your values, and the rest will take care of itself. Today, what the world needs is more heart in the marketplace. Leaders have to start. Employees need to know they are valued. That the places of work is a safe place to engage. Your customers wants your teams heart to be in their work… If you want your teams hearts…they need to know your “Why”.  In the last post we looked at what training should be.
In this post I will focus on Agenda and structure. I saw a t-shirt once that said I survived another meeting that should have been an email. I am going to get it I think. But how can we avoid death by meeting. It should go without saying, if you don’t have a compelling agenda cancel the meeting, people will love the free time that just opened up in the schedule. More will get done. This is a good time to ask yourself “does this really need to be a meeting?” Don’t just hold your meeting because its Thursday morning and that is what we do. If you do think you need the meeting, how long should it be? A lot of meetings are in half hour increments, ever wonder why. Technology is great and we do need to be efficient so we go with our scheduling defaults form outlook etc, half hour or hour long increments. This is fine except I see people “padding” agendas to “fill out the time” Instead of this habit, take a look at what you want to get accomplished and determine the correct length. See previous link about ROI here. Many people create an agenda but their main focus for the meeting is to cover everything on the Agenda. This is incorrect thinking, we need to take each item one at a time, and not move on until we are sure everyone in the room knows what we are looking for and why. This last part is so important. If you have ten items to cover on an agenda, it is more beneficial and efficient if you only cover the first few items but you cover them thoroughly, than to cruise through and say “we covered all of it”. You will end up having to bring everyone back in and you have not really saved the time you thought you had. It is preferable to over communicate the first time round and then “check in” with the team. This is simple but profound. When you have covered an item and you think you are done say this sentence “OK what do you think we just discussed?” When you get an answer, pick another attendee in the room and ask “Do you agree, is that what we are doing?” This creates dialogue and drives home impact, covers repetition for learning and allows the group to hear peers repeating the message. Next post we will share the power why…  So I get asked a lot about the Training and Development I do for companies.
I speak on the subject, truth is I have a passion for it. I see so many people spending time and effort in training and the truth is it is not always successful. So what might be helpful is to lay out the basics from some of my Training Talks in a series of shorter posts. The first thing we can discuss is a definition of training. For me it’s fairly simple...if it’s training then something should be done differently. As in – I now know something I did not, and I know how to put it into action. If you are taking the time to pull everybody together to review things, then the return on that investment should be improvement. If it is not training – then you are actually just in a meeting. So where to start…when in doubt turn to Covey. “Start with the end in mind”. Whenever I am asked to facilitate or hold training, the question I ask is… “How will you judge if this training was successful”. That's it. Simple, yet so often never asked. This single question will help distill in all minds what we are trying to achieve. Training can impact many things and I believe it should be measurable. Many KPI’s can be created or measured to determine the efficacy of the time spent. Time is a precious resource in both business and life, there should absolutely be an ROI. This in turn leads to what should the structure of the class look like. Many classes have all the “correct” information but fail to bring the desired change. Why? More on that in the next post next time.  A lot of people talk to me about wanting opportunity.
They seem to talk about wanting "more". Not only that but they also seem to want that opportunity to come around a lot more often. Don't get me wrong, looking back I could easily be placed in that camp. So what’s different...hard to say. Maybe it’s my willingness to embrace change. I don’t love it, I just don’t fight it once I understand it. Change is not fun, and most people do not willingly run into it unless they are in some pain. The quote goes something like "not until the pain of same is greater than the pain of change, will we embrace change" - Dave Ramsey, I think. It's true. The thing is change and opportunity are linked, perhaps its only in our rear view mirror that we recognized that time of painful change as the beginning of the road that leads to opportunity. If there is an encouragement in all of this it is to look at the change differently next time it threatens to raise its ugly head. Look through the chaos and uncertainty and think what if? What if this time the change led to positive things? What if this change led to the pivot that gave you the edge...? Sure seek opportunity and push for more, but if you don't see it...go look for where the change is. |
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